Just What's A Canker Sore
9 years ago
Wednesday, May 25, 2005
I've been doing some more ponderings. I have been watching a bit of big brother. Ok, before you groan and dismiss the rest of the post, give me a chance to explain. I actually find it a really inetersting exercise in studying group dynamics. As well as how the individual functions within that. They seemed to choose the housemates based on their 'strong personalities' and their willingness to be outgoing and act, not caring what others think. They all stated how confident they were, but looking at their behaviour I am told a different story of how they feel about themselves. I think confidence is quite often misinterpreted. I mean, other things are mistaken for confidence. Confidence to me doesn't mean that you have to be loud or abnoxious, but rather that you are comfortable with who you are, and you don't feel the need to get defensive. The loud people seem to get labelled the confident ones, but sometimes that can be the complete opposite. They are so insecure about who they are that they feel the need to cover themselves up with masks and play out a role, rather than being who they are. I think insecurity is often masked as confidence.
These people seem to think they have so much confidence. Genuine confidence. What they keep feeding each other is advice like, "Just be yourself. Who cares about anyone else or what they think?" And that's what's wrong with the world. 6 billion people doing their own thing. I think it's incredibly important to be in touch with yourself enough to choose how it is appropriate to behave amongst others. It is not every man/woman/dog for himself. Life is about working together and choosing to behave in a way that is going to be beneficial for everyone around you. The bible says "Don't do anything if it causes your brother to stumble". I totally agree with that. There are certain things we ought not to do, even though it may not be harmful to me, it may be harmful for another. I think that's what causes so much conflict in the big brother house. They all actually believe that the best thing to do is just be yourelf, scerw everyone else. That's the right thing to do. It's fantastic to watch them all acting this out and then wondering why people end up hating them. Because if you don't care about someone else, why are they going to care about you? Treating people the way you want to be treated only works if you care about other people.
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Bleeding pop psychology and its ultra crappy "being true to yourself is the key to happiness rubbish". It's utter rubbish: an excuse to live a selfish life. The funny thing is, it doesn't even work! Just like you pointed out in Big Bro: people who don't care about others are pains in the butt! And everyone knows it!
Another funny thing is that secular philosophers actually agree with this. Thomas Hobbes, for example, says that the very premise of human existance and right and wrong is based around society, and what is positive and negative for society. This means the best way to live is to care primarily about the people around you, not primarily about yourself.
You've got to lose your life to gain it, right?
It comes from the book 1984 - a must read!
George Orwell's hellish society is where Big Brother dehumanises, isolates and destroys your individuality and your sense of commnity.
The State is Big Brother ruthlessly exploits people for its own purposes. It uses hidden TV camera's to strip away people's dignity. The hero Winston Smith fearfully realises by the end of the book that he is NOTHING . He doesn't exist.Humanity doesn't exist. Fear drives him into betraying everything he believes in to protect himself...
All that exists is the State and it's agenda.QTE: " If you want a picture of the future, picture a giant boot smashing down on the face of humanity forever."
We have a guilded cage but our slavery is no less real I think.
Shows like BB make me furious in that they exploit the craving for esteem of it's participants, and turn the lonely masses into voyeurs. The TV camera's create two prisons!
It's like in the Trueman show at the end where Trueman ffinally escapes ... the millions of VIEWERS flick the dials of their TVs looking for another jail!
therevhead
I really want to read that book. I haven't. I'm almost finished my current book, so I might head down to my local library (insert cheesy grin) and get 1984.
Maybe people prefer a lie rather than truth...
"...The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them.
For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities — his eternal power and divine nature — have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.
For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened...." goes onto to talk about the consequences etc etc
trh
PS. What book will you be returning to aforementioned library?
Society is going very downhill. Even in my grandparents days, people thoguth of one another, people looked out for their neighbours and people DID genuinely care for each other. Thats one thing that i think our generation should be mournful about. That we don't have that in OUR reality of the world. We've lost a lot of what it means to be human.
Dehumanization, that’s what it is. It is only helping to kick people in the head repeatedly.
And I won't be returning anything to the library revhead. I'm reading a book mum owns right now. The last book in the left behind series. It's called "Glorious Appearing". Book 12! It's almost over! I am procrastinating reading it because I don't want the series to end. I'm so conflicted. I want to know what happens, but I don't want the book to end!
Listen to your soul...
No matter where you are
Truth is never far
Just listen and your heart will lead you
Home/On (?)"
How true, how true. All we need to do is listen to our HEARTS. Ou hearts will shed the light on our paths, and bring us peace and understanding. Just listen to your heart - it will lead you on to glory and success.
Oh, sorry. I'm back to reality now. And the word is Home Danny.
Oh, sorry. I'm back to reality now. And the word is Home Danny.
Listen to your toe
For it will let you know
Where you should go
And when you should grow a 'fro.
Listen to your butt
For it will help you putt
The golf ball in, but
Your tee-off you should not cut.
Listen for the hum
Of your grumbling tum;
It says "Do not feed me rum,
I'd rather eat a plum".
All organs have a tale
And if your brain's not frail
You'll look beyond the veil
An read their messages like the mail.
Love the poem too, nice work. Casey truly is an inspiration to us all